Help A Loved One
As hard as addiction can be for the user, it can be equally hard for family, friends and co-workers. When they’re ready, we’re ready to help you get them the support they need. As a loved one, here are a few things to keep in mind.
Addiction is a disease
While it's natural to feel hurt by a loved one’s addiction, the truth is their addiction is a medical condition. It alters decision making and affects judgement. Getting clean and sober requires the same amount of care and support as if your loved one was facing any other disease.
There’s no such thing as hopeless
We’ve seen countless so-called “hopeless” addicts walk through our doors and get clean. Often the reason they finally entered rehab was because of the support and steadfastness of a spouse, partner, sibling, parent, child, friend, boss or co-worker who refused to give up.
Intervene with compassion
Often, it takes the involvement of friends and family to break through an addict’s denial to get them to acknowledge their addiction and agree to seek treatment. You can’t force them to get treatment until they are ready, but you can be there for when they are. The key is not to isolate or ostracize the addict, but to show your support and provide a healing environment for them to get better.
Finding the right help
The most important thing you can do is to help the addict find a treatment center that is right for them. You know them best, and will be able to tell more easily if a certain place is going to be a right fit. You can do a lot of the necessary work like finding out if there is an opening, finding out about insurance and costs, and learning about the different programs. That way, when your loved one is ready, you can get them the treatment they need without delay.
Holding them accountable
To overcome addiction the addict must take responsibility for their addiction. They most likely have plenty of excuses for their addiction that we will confront during treatment. Recovery truly begins when the addict takes responsibility and decides to make the change. As their loved one, you can help hold them accountable for their actions, showing your support while continuing to hold them up to the high standard of sobriety.
You can’t control how another person acts or thinks. You can’t force them to do something they’re not ready to do. The best thing you can do is to be a strong example of balance and self-care.
If you need someone to talk to about how to address your loved one’s addiction or how to stage an intervention, we can help. Call us to speak confidentially to one of our addiction recovery specialists.
Are you or a loved one struggling with addiction?
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